Does anybody really like to start over? Sure there are a few adrenaline junkies that always love starting new things but most of us would rather stay comfortable. It’s hard to start again.
That is why so many cyclists ride the same route at the same pace. Or at a deeper level why so many people stay stuck in jobs that don’t fulfill them, relationships that aren’t working, or places that don’t suit them.
I’m on my way to being an ‘expert’ in starting over. Or at least that’s how I feel. In a few weeks I’ll be starting over with a brand new baby, I’m starting over with this blog, and by the end of the year I’ll need to focus on starting a new career direction. Yikes!
Starting over can be beautiful, fun, rewarding and the path to a purposeful life. But it takes courage.
I had a call yesterday with a talented and experienced writer that is launching her first blog. She wanted my advice on how to grow it, what to focus on etc…The only valuable advice I could give was to encourage her for starting something new and to focus on showing up daily/weekly/yearly until the effort pays off.
And if it never pays off?
A lot of time no matter how hard we try or focus on our passions – we fail. But the failure was not a waste of time or effort. Everything you do and every experience you have is preparing you for something. Nothing is wasted. A lot of people, especially those that never stepped outside their comfort zones, will think and tell you that you wasted your time, money, or future. They focus on collecting their 401k while hating (or at least barely tolerating) their daily lives, sit in comfort in front of the same old news channel, go to the same restaurant day in and day out, and go to the same gym to run on the same treadmill. You don’t have to listen to these people. You are different, you have something inside of you that needs to come out.
Really successful and happy people start over all the time. They fail a lot, they change direction a lot, they learn a lot. It’s a lesson I have to remind myself of daily. It’s so easy to compare your blog, your family, your job, your bank account, your relationship, or your Strava times with others. But it doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you show up.
When you don’t feel like riding…ride
When you don’t know what to write…write
When you want to give up….continue
When you are scared…take the first step
When someone tells you to quit…ignore them
Darren Rowse started 30+ blogs over the last 10 years – 3 of them remain. He started a long list of ventures, products, companies etc – only a few of them were profitable.
Mark Cavendish (arguably one of the best bike sprinters ever) was told he’d amount to nothing because he never tested well in the lab. And apparently the power readings from his wins are surprisingly low.
Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
Vera Wang failed to make the U.S. Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue and was passed over for the editor-in-chief position.
J.K. Rowling was a single mom living off welfare when she began writing the first “Harry Potter” novel.
Dr. Seuss had his first book rejected by 27 different publishers.
James Dyson went through 5,126 failed prototypes and his savings over 15 years before launching the Dyson vacuum.
Michael Jordan was cut from his high school team. He was told he was too short and lacked the skills to play basketball.
Babe Ruth also held the record for the highest strikeouts (1,330). On being asked about his strikeouts, he said: “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
Mark Cuban was a failure as a carpenter, cook and waiter. He is now the billionaire owner the Dallas Mavericks and a venture capitalist . “I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many times you failed,” Cuban says. “You only have to be right once. I tried to sell powdered milk. I was an idiot lot of times, and I learned from them all.”
Think about one new thing you can do this weekend. Take a risk, make a fresh start, or just show up and try something.